Last night on Twitter Amber Coffman, one of the members of Brooklyn-based band Dirty Projectors, began tweeting about her experience with music publicist Heathcliff Berru of Life or Death PR and Management. Coffman recalled an incident where the publicist rubbed her ass and bit her hair, in front of several of her male friends.
Was just re-telling/re-remembering a story abt how a very popular music publicist RUBBED my ass and BIT my hair at a bar a couple years ago
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
This was someone I barely knew and had just met. He did it in front of 4 of my male friends. Still makes me so damn mad thinking about it
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
Still mad at myself as well for not punching him in the nose, but I totally froze up. Weird survival instinct I guess
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
Just was looking at their current roster and it's amazing. People I know even. Funny how shitty, fake ass people can have so much success
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
And in case anyone was wondering who the ass rubbing, hair biting mother fucker was, I'm not afraid to say it-
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
It was Heathcliff Berru, at Life or Death PR and MGMT
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
I've been told many women have had scary stories about him for years but are scared to speak up. And dudes overlook it and keep hiring him
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
https://twitter.com/Amber_Coffman/status/689292700076486656
After Coffman shared her experience, another LA-based music publicist, Beth Martinez, replied that she had a similar experience:
Can verify this from personal experience https://t.co/otCFQKn8RY
— Beth Martinez. Hero. (@dangervillage) January 19, 2016
@Amber_Coffman yeah had similar experience
— Beth Martinez. Hero. (@dangervillage) January 19, 2016
.@Amber_Coffman he repeatedly put his hand down my shirt while driving me home after I told him to stop many times
— Beth Martinez. Hero. (@dangervillage) January 19, 2016
@Amber_Coffman then "apologized" the next day and told me not to tell our mutual friend
— Beth Martinez. Hero. (@dangervillage) January 19, 2016
@Amber_Coffman I was too ashamed to tell anyone for years, and took me years to realize how fucked up that was
— Beth Martinez. Hero. (@dangervillage) January 19, 2016
@Amber_Coffman my stories aren't even comparatively bad to what has happened to other girls by this person
— Beth Martinez. Hero. (@dangervillage) January 19, 2016
Martinez also shared her experience being roofied in Los Angeles and her concerns that it was related.
Other women in the music industry, including publicist Judy Silverman of Motormouth Media, and Bethany Cosentino of Best Coast also commented:
Someone is saying something important and you're all reading, but you all don't want to be involved.
— Motormouthmedia Judy (@motormouthmedia) January 19, 2016
Cosby is the hugest case-in-point of the fear of women have to admit any form of harassment. We look dumb, nobody believes is, we are sluts
— Motormouthmedia Judy (@motormouthmedia) January 19, 2016
I've known ambers story for 3 years. It was not mine to tell publicly. But people knew.
— Motormouthmedia Judy (@motormouthmedia) January 19, 2016
I've known Beth's for longer.
— Motormouthmedia Judy (@motormouthmedia) January 19, 2016
@motormouthmedia I genuinely thought most people knew stories like this and chose not to care. seems like not, I'm glad she said something
— HannahSilkChampagne (@hsilkchampagne) January 19, 2016
Thank you @Amber_Coffman for bravely speaking the truth. Heathcliff Berru is a scumbag and I'm glad someone finally spoke up.
— Best Coast (@BestCoast) January 19, 2016
@Amber_Coffman good for you for doing this. I was too freaked out to ever say anything. Seriously he's not a good person on any level.
— Best Coast (@BestCoast) January 19, 2016
Life or Death PR is a prominent, successful PR company, and has an extensive roster, including acts like D’Angelo, Odd Future, Killer Mike, Kelela, Speedy Ortiz, Wavves, DIIV and Wet. We have reached out for comment from Life or Death and will update accordingly if we hear from them.
UPDATE: Since publishing this, Coffman has responded to the coverage of her story, and said Domino Records chose to discontinue working with Life or Death after she told them about her experience.
Just woke up to so many responses from last night and I'm stunned! I was really just venting an had no idea it would get such a response…
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
Thanks so much for all the support- seems clear that it can be helpful to share these stories. When it happened I was afraid of my own wrath
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
I told my friends and a few people in the music biz that I knew closely but that's it. I now wish I had said more sooner…
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
Maybe it could've spared more from having the same thing + worse happen to them. Unfortunately these kind of scenarios are common for women
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
What happened to me is of course the mellow side of the kind of things that happen to women- maybe it's not as easy to share certain stories
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
But I hope those who want to will feel more supported to do so
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
I do want to say that when this first happened, I told Domino records, who were working on projects with him + they stopped working with him
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
They told me they've held their commitment of not working with him ever since, and I really appreciate that gesture. More should follow suit
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
There are a lot of incredible artists on Life or Death PR that I respect very much and I hope this doesn't cause them too much of a headache
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
But something like that is just one small example of why so many women are scared to say anything. Now more than ever I realize that
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
Domino records asked me what I wanted them to do at the time- I said I couldn't make that decision for them. They made their own decision
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
More people need to offer their support and solidarity to women instead of putting the choice on them or making them demand it/beg for it
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 19, 2016
Several other women and musicians have also shared their stories (full disclosure, Theo Karatzas is a close friend of mine):
dude this is real…had to tell him to fuck off and leave me alone at bonnaroo a couple years ago @Amber_Coffman https://t.co/6h2wTlLxB4
— Martika Finch (@mAAAtika) January 19, 2016
I don't have a lot to say on @Amber_Coffman's story right now except that her story is my story and I am sorry I didn't speak up sooner.
— Theodora Karatzas (@theokaratzas) January 19, 2016
@dangervillage @Amber_Coffman Had an experience or two where he was uncomfortably aggressive in ways I thankfully don't usually experience
— Shirley Braha (@shirleybraha) January 19, 2016
@Amber_Coffman – sadly had a similar hb experience years ago in brooklyn. sexual harassment is a serious issue, thank you for speaking up.
— christy merriner (@merriner) January 19, 2016
Thank you @Amber_Coffman in 2009 he grabbed my ass and then held me down onto my couch as he unzipped his pants &forced my hand on his dick.
— TEARIST (@_TEARIST_) January 19, 2016
.@Amber_Coffman I told our "manager" at the time who said "we are going to have to get over that arent we" if I cared about my band.
— TEARIST (@_TEARIST_) January 19, 2016
@Amber_Coffman this same night he roofied at least 2 other girls. he never touched me but i heard it all verbally. his crew is this best tho
— faithy wap (@faithsilva) January 19, 2016
@Amber_Coffman it is hard to speak out because his entire crew are homies but women need to stand strong. i hope the company doesn't fail
— faithy wap (@faithsilva) January 19, 2016
@Amber_Coffman due to just his actions.
— faithy wap (@faithsilva) January 19, 2016
It's weird when your homie does bad things to other girls and even to you but it's still hard to speak on it. Gotta stand up sometimes.
— faithy wap (@faithsilva) January 19, 2016
@harmonicait was my mgr for a second until he drunkenly tried to fuck the vocalist who was performing w me in our second time meeting him
— BALAM ACAB (@thebalamacab) January 19, 2016
UPDATE #2: Roxy Lange reached out to me via email to share her assault story:
Heathcliff Beru sexually assaulted me when I first moved to NYC in 2007, I was 21 years-old. He kept trying to force me to give him a blowjob in a cab and wouldn’t stop pushing my head into his lap forcefully, with his pants unzipped and penis out in the open. After I got out of the cab, he followed me up 3 flights of stairs and forced his way into my apartment, attempting to force himself on me but he was luckily too drunk and coked up to get hard so he gave up. He then pissed himself and fell asleep in my bed while I laid there, a very drunk 21 year-old experiencing NY nightlife for the first time and this happened to me. About a year ago, I ran into him while grocery shopping in Silver Lake with his wife and he hugged me, I wanted to throw up. I repressed this memory for so long and always assumed that I brought this upon myself because I was very drunk that evening but that’s not the case at all. He’s a disgusting, loser scumbag who doesn’t respect women. It pains me to know that there are others out there who have been violated by Berru, it makes me sick to my stomach.
UPDATE #3: Sadie Dupuis of Speedy Ortiz, DIIV and Wavves have addressed their respective situations with Life Or Death:
we worked w 2 great publicists at life or death on foil deer. never met/spoke to heathcliff. it's fucked to hear about this abuse&harassment
— sadie dupuis (@sad13) January 19, 2016
we're waiting to have a longer convo with them. but we fully support @Amber_Coffman @dangervillage @maaatika for bringing this info public
— sadie dupuis (@sad13) January 19, 2016
and want to make it clear that we have no interest in directly or indirectly supporting an abuser, now or ever
— sadie dupuis (@sad13) January 19, 2016
. @HeathcliffB @LifeorDeathPR pic.twitter.com/1G0km0Liw6
— WAVVES (@wavves) January 19, 2016
DIIV will no longer be working with Life or Death PR.
— DIIV (@DIIV) January 19, 2016
UPDATE #4: Heathcliff Berru has stepped down as the CEO of Life or Death PR, and the company has issued the following statement (via Pitchfork):
Life or Death has a zero tolerance policy for the type of conduct alleged in today’s on-line postings. We take these allegations very seriously. The men and women who make up this company do not, and will not, condone or tolerate any conduct described in the on-line postings. Life Or Death is 3 men and 3 women who are committed to promoting art and serving the clients that we’re so privileged to represent. We are taking measures to ensure that the alleged behavior did not, and will not, make its way into company operations or impact our commitment to promoting art and assisting our clients. We are grateful to Heathcliff Berru for all the work he’s done to date and his creative vision at the company. We appreciate and support his decision to step down as CEO of Life Or Death.
UPDATE #5: Speedy Ortiz and Kelela have also announced they will no longer be working with Life or Death PR:
we're thankful to the folks at life or death we worked w directly (not heathcliff). but after hearing these stories we're no longer w/ LoD
— sadie dupuis (@sad13) January 19, 2016
wishing best to folks who worked there. they seem nauseated. but doesn't feel personally ok to work w a company built by an attempted rapist
— sadie dupuis (@sad13) January 19, 2016
https://twitter.com/kelelam/status/689608583638454273
UPDATE #6: Berru issued his own statement to LA Weekly:
There have been several reports about my alleged inappropriate behavior which deserve a response. I am deeply sorry for those who I have offended by my actions and how I have made certain women feel. If I crossed the line of decency or respectfulness in situations when I was drunk and under the influence, there is no excuse of course. To be clear, while my conduct may have been inappropriate, I have never drugged anyone or engaged in that type of behavior. Nevertheless, I do not want to be the type of person who would let drugs or alcohol take command of his life and compromise how he treats people. Yet I have been this person and it’s time to put a stop to all of this. Create a world with one less inappropriate man.
I have been fighting a losing battle against drugs and alcohol for many years and will be checking into a rehabilitation facility in the hope that I can improve my chances of winning that fight. A year ago, I was confronted by a peer and began to try to clean up and make things right with therapy and with an eye towards quitting the addiction. The shame and sadness feels as strong now as it did then and I am making an immediate change.
I have already lost my wife, abandoned my family, and destroyed those I love as a result of my shameful, embarrassing, unacceptable behavior. I deeply apologize to them as well. By no means do they deserve to feel the pain of my actions. Please give them the space they deserve. They were the light at the end of a dark tunnel. I was married during some of these years and hid my problems from everyone well. Especially her and her family. Totally inexcusable.
In no way do these allegations reflect on Life or Death PR, its staff, or anyone associated with the company. These are my issues, not theirs. I could not be more proud of the company and what it stands for. That being said I have stepped down as the CEO and relinquishing all responsibility to the current president, Nick Dierl. The company shouldn’t have to deal with this distraction and I want Nick and the rest of the team to continue to do their good work while I take care of myself.
In the meantime, Chelsea Wolfe shared her own story:
@motormouthmedia he tried to kiss me once after what I thought was a casual business meeting. I just turned my face &
— CHELSEA WOLFE (@CCHELSEAWWOLFE) January 20, 2016
@motormouthmedia thought, what a dumb weirdo! sucks to know he was creeping on other women even harder
— CHELSEA WOLFE (@CCHELSEAWWOLFE) January 20, 2016
And Coffman commented:
Love that Heathcliff's initial statement uses "alleged." He knows damned well what he did. That's what I call a half assed apology
— Amber Coffman (@Amber_Coffman) January 20, 2016
UPDATE #7: Killer Mike has issued a statement supporting his friend Cliff, and commending Amber’s bravery in coming forward:
My Publicist Lost his wife, biz & Rep. My friend Got an ear full from me about how fucked up he behaved. Amber deserves all our support
— Killer Mike (@KillerMike) January 20, 2016
And she and those other women have mine.
— Killer Mike (@KillerMike) January 20, 2016
My day to day publicist is Dunkin and he will continue to be. Cliff is still my friend and i will support him in being a better human being
— Killer Mike (@KillerMike) January 20, 2016
Life or death is no more and cliff will be dealing with his drug and alcohol issues.
— Killer Mike (@KillerMike) January 20, 2016
My real desire is to see These women Whole healthy and rocking out like great artist and members or the culture.
— Killer Mike (@KillerMike) January 20, 2016
I'm glad The employees (former) of life or death had a plan ready for clients and we chug along without Cliff but with hope that he grows
— Killer Mike (@KillerMike) January 20, 2016
Into the best version of himself we all know is there. My best wishes again to Amber and all the women involved. Your bravery is Admirable
— Killer Mike (@KillerMike) January 20, 2016
I have set my DMs public if anyone else wants to contact me in connection to this story please do so either there or by email at caitlin@northsidemediagroup.com. Can be on or off the record — if you just need to talk to someone I am here for that, too.

















































thank you for reporting on this and helping more women open up and tell their stories. we need to support these women and help make the whole world be a safe space. and love love love to Judy at Motormouthmedia, you are amazing.
yeah it was great she slept on this because it “wasn’t her story to tell”. Nice.
yes thank you for posting this! this is helping others feel confident in sharing their own experiences.
I have worked with him before and am appalled to learn of this behavior. Disgraceful.
Not surprised at all. Met that guy at a bar years ago and he aggressively tried to get me to “hang out” via text and Facebook messages for weeks after. Learned from a friend afterwards that he had a fiance/long term girlfriend the entire time.
This isn’t sexual harassment. It is sexual assault.
With this guy running amok for years, why did these bands ever hire this dickhead’s company in the first place?
I find it hard to believe that this wasn’t common knowledge in the tight indie PR world. You’d think bands would get tipped off that they’re working with a sexual predator.
It was very common knowledge, but the women involved didn’t want to speak for fear of jeopardizing their careers. You can’t demand women give up their passions because of a man. The onus was on men, both at LoD and on the roster, to do something about this. Women can’t speak for other women.
” but the women involved didn’t want to speak for fear of jeopardizing their careers. ”
Cop out. Someone should have said something. Man or woman.
Maybe this jackass might not have assaulted one more person than he did if someone had the nerve to not let wrongs go unaccounted for.
I am angry. I am so angry that a-holes like this can run around, consequence-free for years and years, and it takes a much-later offhand twitter confessional before the whole lid gets blown off.
Come on. This scumbag should have been taken down years ago. Especially if his behavior was such a “open secret”.
Wait a minute, Life Or Death: you “appreciate” the work and creative vision of a sexual predator? Get the fuck out of here with that tone deaf, grossly inappropriate bullshit. Given that some of the stories about Berru have been sat on for *years* and Berru was one of the dudes in charge at Life Or Death, I find it really hard to believe nobody at the firm knew about what he was doing. Most likely he was given the same “pass” that sexually predating douchebro assholes like him tend to get when they’re in power.
Well done, girls
Do you know these individuals personally? Why do you automatically assume?
Why don’t the women he assaulted goto the police and handle the situation properly? Withholding judgment on whether this individual is guilty or not guilty, I think it’s sad that 2 or 3 people can post something & it’s considered by the public to be absolute truth. Innocent until proven guilty, right?
Wrong. The burden of proof a person with good sense should require before deciding someone is a predatory creep who deserves to be called out as such and shunned by business partners is not at all the same as the burden of proof required to send someone to prison. Consider the fact that several women have come forward on penalty of slander and slut-shaming to share very difficult narratives about being victimized by this man, and the fact that he immediately stepped down — that won’t be sufficient to imprison the man, but it sure as hell should be enough for private citizens to cut business ties and tell their female friends and family to steer well clear of this bro.
You’re wrong. The “penalty of slander and slut-shaming” rarely (if ever) happens.
“The “penalty of slander and slut-shaming” rarely (if ever) happens.”
Spoken like a true blinkered MRA idiot. Amazing. Maybe you could fuck off to Return Of Kings and leave the adults to have a conversation eh?
I’m just guessing here, but I’m assuming you think Bill Cosby is innocent right?
If you are a man and you knew anything about this, then you are as culpable as Berru himself. Simple as that.
Motormouth Judy said she knew about this for years and assumed everybody else did. Why is she not as culpable as Berru himself? She is in a position of power and chose to do nothing.
Because it wasn’t her story to tell.
Cop out. When is it your story to tell?
That dude abusing his wife and kids next door, is that your story to tell?
It’s awful this still happens, but exciting that the time is coming to a close where those in a position of power are no longer able to continue this behavior without the backlash of an internet that isn’t down with that shit.
Life and Death is a very small company. You know how people at work know each other’s business. It seems inconceivable that someone didn’t know what was going on. I am not saying that is is impossible that the company didn’t know I am just saying it is highly suspect. I know that “whistle blowing” as they say is difficult. It pits people against each other and it usually ends up in you losing your job especially when it is the CEO who is doing inappropriate stuff. While this may not rise to the cover up that probably was in place with Bill Crosby it is really the same thing, that is….. if this was going on. Ok, my two cents.
If doing the right thing was easy, everyone would do it.