Brooklyn Women Don’t Like to Date Short Men, But Brooklyn Women Are Wrong

What woman wouldn't want to feel like this?

The New York Post reported recently on a new problem facing our city: “big-otry.” It’s pretty cool of the Post to acknowledge that “big-otry” is a problem, even though it won’t acknowledge homelessness as being one.

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But so, it seems that virtually all women in New York share the opinion that dating a man under the height of 5’9″ is undesirable. As in, they flat-out won’t do it. Based on data gathered by the dating website Are You Interested, only 2.4% of women would even consider dating a man under 5’9″! The numbers are even worse in Manhattan and the Bronx (they are slightly better in New Jersey, however I will refrain from making any beggars-can’t-be-choosers jokes because that’s beneath me), where less than one in a hundred women would date a man of below average height.

I don’t like to hyperbolize (ha! yes I do), but this is INSANE. Obviously, these results are somewhat skewed, because the women on this dating site might be trying to attain some sort of ideal in the profile they create, and these same women might—in real life—be a little bit less picky, and care more about the personality of a man, rather than how tall he is. It is also possible that these women would have legitimate reasons not to want to date a short guy in real life, because for every Josh Hutcherson, there’s a Tom Cruise, by which I mean, some short guys (like some tall guys! like all guys! like all people!) are totally insane and have screwy personalities. But this isn’t about getting to know a guy and finding out he’s defective, this is about pre-judging men based on their height. And that’s actually pretty fucked up!

I don’t want to come across here as someone who would actually suggest dating someone based only on, you know, shared interests or compatible personalities. There’s so much more to a person than who he or she is on the inside, obviously. Physical attraction is incredibly important. But the thing is, physical attraction is mercurial…even if you’re someone who has always had a “type,” you’d be surprised at how quickly that can change when you meet the right person. Or even the wrong person! The heart (euphemism, obviously) wants what it wants. But even if you’re a woman who has always loved, oh I don’t know, dating someone whose stature is comparable to Gaston’s in Beauty and the Beast, rendering each hand-holding opportunity into a Disney-worthy moment, you might find out that being physcially dominated isn’t the only thing that turns you on, and that in fact, there’s nothing better than being at the exact same eye-level as the man you’re with, giving you the ability to stare right into his eyes, knowing that the lengths of your bodies are perfectly aligned, increasingly aware that the slightest move by either of you will take things somewhere totally new.

Anyway! I don’t know! I know that this is the most hetero-normative thing I’ve ever written. But also, I don’t know what you’re into. But then, maybe neither do you. All I’m saying, women of Brooklyn, is give short men a chance. Because, two words: Peter Dinklage.

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11 COMMENTS

  1. Oh no! Are the boys finally having their body’s up for discussion!? Please let’s make it all about what the women can do to make them feel better. Tell me again how men get dick jobs in numbers greater than female boob jobs. Welcome to the world guys!

    • Here’s why you’re an idiot:

      1) Nothing in this article suggests (nor does any rational person) that objectification of women is acceptable.

      2) As terrible as it is – the objectification of women is about aesthetics, not what “makes them a woman”. Men fantasize about large breasts, thin waists and delicious booties on their women but are far more likely to “forgive” a woman for their lacking or forget completely and embrace other aspects they find attractive in a particular woman. Furthermore, these desired traits are changeable should a woman desired to do so. Conversely: actual studies have been conducted illustrating that women are overwhelmingly less likely to even entertain the notion of giving a man a chance should he be shorter than 5’11” (6’1″ is actually closer to the ideal number 95% of women give). and there is little to nothing a man can do to alter this physical trait or even compensate for it. Statistically a man needs to make an extra $50,000 per year for ever inch he is shorter than his competitor to be considered desirable by most women. These are facts, numbers – not your bullsh!t opinions.

      3) As disgusting as the objectification of women is it is not cart blanche to demean another group. There is no justification to ridicule or denigrate ANY individual or group (outside of religions and ideologies) – particularly when that group has absolutely no say in the characteristics they possess. This “taste-of-their-own-medicine” mentality so many women pose as a facile justification is trite and deplorable. It is only more irrational as the very (few) men who do speak out against objectification of women happen to be short men or other minority men who have felt the brunt of bigotry and objectification and can empathize. How stupid do you have to be to ridicule and demean some of your very supporters in other issues.

      Grow up Mmc.

    • Here’s why you’re wrong:

      1) Nothing in this article suggests (nor does any rational person) that objectification of women is acceptable.

      2) As terrible as it is – the objectification of women is about aesthetics, not what “makes them a woman”. Men fantasize about large breasts, thin waists and delicious booties on their women but are far more likely to “forgive” a woman for their lacking or forget completely and embrace other aspects they find attractive in a particular woman. Furthermore, these desired traits are changeable should a woman desired to do so. Conversely: actual studies have been conducted illustrating that women are overwhelmingly less likely to even entertain the notion of giving a man a chance should he be shorter than 5’11” (6’1″ is actually closer to the ideal number 95% of women give). and there is little to nothing a man can do to alter this physical trait or even compensate for it. Statistically a man needs to make an extra $50,000 per year for ever inch he is shorter than his competitor to be considered desirable by most women. These are facts, numbers – not your opinions.

      3) As disgusting as the objectification of women is it is not cart blanche to demean another group. There is no justification to ridicule or denigrate ANY individual or group (outside of religions and ideologies) – particularly when that group has absolutely no say in the characteristics they possess. This “taste-of-their-own-medicine” mentality so many women pose as a facile justification is trite and deplorable. It is only more irrational as the very (few) men who do speak out against objectification of women happen to be short men or other minority men who have felt the brunt of bigotry and objectification and can empathize. How stupid do you have to be to ridicule and demean some of your very supporters in other issues.

      If my comment is deleted again I will report it.

  2. I’m well under 5′ 9″ and I concur with Andrew. I’m pretty sure I get more women than most. In nyc, the Avg. man has 10 partners in a lifetime. I knock that figure out of the ballpark in a year. srsly, where are you guys getting your stats?

  3. Yeah, this is just garbage. Who are these women they are supposedly polling? I’m 5’3″ female, and tall guys do nothing for me. As I like to say, ‘I prefer men in my own time zone.’ 😉 …meaning closer to my own height.

    Anyway, people do this kind of profiling all the time…whether it’s middle aged men who think women their own age (lol) are ‘too old’ for them, or whether it’s asian women who will only date non-asian men, black guys who will only date lighter skinned women, it seems lots of people allow society to influence them in what is considered ‘attractive’…If this were not the case we’d see a lot more variety in couples out there, but so often they fall along lines of what society tells us is desirable. I mean, do you think it’s any coincidence that in some cultures, ‘big women’ are considered beautiful, whereas in other cultures they prefer ‘model thin’ women? Or that so many black pro-ball players just ‘happen’ to end up with light skinned women? Or that so many asian women are supposedly so much more ‘open minded’ than others when it comes to inter-racial dating (meaning dating NON asian men)? These things are all influenced by society, advertising, peers, hollywood etc.

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